“Don’t save her, she don’t want to be saved”
One of the biggest lessons I learned in 2015, is the realization that most people don’t want to be saved. They cry out in pain, lay in agony, and even with a hand gesture, letting them know that you’re here for them, they will refuse, the help. While other people, live a life of constant drama with no real solution and even when you’re that positive being, wanting to show them that things can get better, they seem to enjoy the chaos. They don’t want to be saved, and I had to learn, to let go.
The hardest thing for me to do, is not care for someone, especially if they are a family member or friend. Despite what I’m going through in life, I always seem to make room for others. I want to see everyone succeed. But reality kicked me in the ass, making me realize that no matter how much you try, some people feel like they can do it all on their own. Meanwhile, they are unaware that through their pride, they have managed to push people, away. I remember going through my mental breakdown last year, and reaching out to my best friend, because I knew that despite my thoughts of suicide, I wanted to live. I asked for help, and she was more than willing to give it to me. There is no room for pride, when we are hurting, struggling, trying desperately to move forward, and can’t. It’s so easy to live in freedom, if only we realize that we can’t do it alone.
Realizing that I wasted so much of my time, this year, trying to be there for people, who either didn’t want to be helped, or didn’t appreciate the help I gave them, took time away from my own goals. The moment I began to invest more time into my own life and not the lives of people, who didn’t want to be saved, I got a lot more work done. Separating myself from those that want to constantly, indulge in a drama filled lifestyle, is something I want no part of. I began to take myself away. I realize that we all have to be a little selfish, to get ahead in life. There are people that want to constantly, keep you on their level. They don’t want to see you moving forward. Recognize the people and the habits that they exhibit and begin to ask yourself, if this is helping, or hurting me, in the long run. I wasted too many years on people, who honestly, didn’t deserve my help. Recognizing that, fueled me to spend more time with myself, and less time, being distracted, from what was truly important. Those that don’t want to be helped, allow them to continue living the life that they are living. If at a certain point, they do reach out, wanting to be helped, be of assistance to them, but always remember to make room, for yourself, first.